am i failing as a mum

[OlliesMummie]

i feel as tho i am not doing a good job,ollie seems really grumpy and bored and i think it is coz the last 11months of his life have been same boring routine,same toys and same boring lonuge.
i do try and get out like going to park and out for walks in between rain showers and i have been to a play group but the one who hosts them has problems with me been so young so i didnt go again i have no car to go any where i could walk but i'd be walking for 1.5hrs or 2hrs i dont know what i am to do anymore i did have to young teen mums here but one moved to hamilton and the other i lost contact with doesnt seem to ansa texts :( i am on a downer

[Joy,JacksonAndRhiannon]

Youngmummy, you are not failing! Is Ollie healthy, and growing well?! i bet he is! and he must be generally happy. All bubs have there grumpy days. Jackson gets sick of his toys too. He has sooo many, so i alternate them, bring some out one week, bring another lot out the next, kind of refreshes it. Jackson gets sick of being at home too, but then in other ways he likes being home. Even a walk around the block so he can see other stuff. You dont have to go to town.
Maybe you can do more activities with ollie? Do you read him stories? make a drum set out of pots and pans? what about building a sand pit in the backyard for sunny days? Or waterplay in a bucket? I know hes at a difficult age, but someone must have some ideas to help you out!

[Sammielou]

Kids love to play in the rain get some wellies on him and a jacket.. he would love it!!

I live near no-one too.. i moved away from all my family i dont drive either.. kinda in the same boat..

Im a bit different tho.. if someone doesnt want to talk to me them i make a point of talking to them i know i not a nasty person and i shaw as hell wont let any one judge me just cos im younger than them.

Where i am most people are late 30's early 40's and i would love some friends of my own age im getting there now.. and i have quite a few people i know..

You really have to put yourself out to talk to people or they really wont make an effort with you either .. took me 8 months to work that one out!

Go out and show everyone how great of a mum you are and just talk to them the more effort you put in the more you get back...

If you do get that bored add me to your msn so we can have a good ol natter lol

[OlliesMummie]

i do talk alot i cant shut up once i get going but i found when they were talking they would look at others and kinda made me feel like an outkast like they asked questions to each other and that then ill ask one and tht be tht i didnt get one in return to me thats how a convo gets going i found it rude and im better then tht oh yer my sons only 11mnths get cant walk so i dont want him in the rain lol hell b a drown rat lol

[Penny143]

youngmummy, your son is GORGEOUS! i'm not a teen mommy, but I had never really had much contact with babies when I was growing up, so I was completely lost when my son came along and believe me, I went through a major bout of depression. talking to other mommies here and on other sites help out, though sometimes they make you feel dumb when you ask a question. oh well, you learn as you go along. your son is older than mine, so you have more experience than me being a mommy. maybe you can help me out sometimes if i need it. well talk to you later

Melissa

[Lexibethr]

That fact that you are worrying about it shows that you are a good mom. Just sitting outside playing is a good way for them to get air and a little change of pace. Also remember that mommy is the babies fav toy that they never get bored with. When mine were little I used to get down and look through magazines telling them what all the pictures were, or I would run around the downstairs hiding on them and letting them chase me around. another favorite we has was sitting on the floor in front of the fridge then we would take out jars open them up and let the babies smell them. I know its weird but they love discovering all the differnt smells that things have and its fun for mom to watch the faces they make when the find one the really like or dislike